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The Etheric Cord Cutting Ritual

Updated: Aug 25, 2022

... Letting go of all that no longer serves us ...

"Some of us think holding on makes us strong, but sometimes it is letting go."

Herman Hesse

Photo · Timothy Dykes · Unsplash

This ritual is a cutting of the energetic cords to any experience, relationship or toxic situation that has been seriously holding you back in your life, and draining your life energy.

‘As you turn inward and fall in love with the truth of who you really are, you become whole, despite the brokenness.’ Chloë Rain

Red Ribbon of Fate · Toiea

When you cut the cords in this way you’re not hurting anybody, either physically or energetically.

This is about letting go of a very unhealthy and unbalanced energetic flow, and clearing the energetic space between you both.

There’s no need to stop loving them, you’re just ending the negative impact on you, and stopping their capacity to drain you of your energy, power, time, and your inner peace.

In this way you’re both released to be able to fully stand separately and independently in each your own power.

I release with love what was tied to me, and with love and thanks set us both free. The silver ties are now released, with Goddess’s help so mote it be.

It may seem like an ending but it’s really a beautiful chance for a transformational new beginning.

Emma Brammer · Cutting Ties

"Resisting, identifying with, and suppressing emotions is the number one reason why we become so sick and

overwhelmed as empaths. But the more embracing and accommodating you are towards the emotions you feel, without identifying with them, the more quickly they leave." Aletheia Luna

THE RITUAL: Cutting the ties that bind

Performing a ritual like this is a natural way to re-balance the space within and around you. Clarity returns and your creative abilities are empowered. The beauty of etheric cord cutting is that the fierce drive within us to release and sever ties with anything holding us back and no longer useful, is energetically cut off and released from your etheric and spiritual body.

This kind of ritual does often require a raw inner strength and commitment to truly cutting off those harmful or stagnant energies. And so, in this way you honour yourself and your work, and who you really are.

Calling on the four powerful elements of earth, wind water and fire is where we will begin.

four elements · reachforthesky

FIRE: Envision intense and purifying flames, as fiery as volcanic lava, burning away anything that no longer serves, you — the unwanted or invasive energies of others, and your own limiting beliefs.

Burning to ashes anything standing between you and your destiny and life mission.

WATER: And now a massive tidal wave floods the temple of your body and soul, washing away any limiting beliefs about yourself, and further clearing the ashes of any entities hooked into you in some way.

None of this should have ever come near you, so allow the flooding waters to wash all the way from the crown of your head through to the tips of your toes.

AIR: Then the winds of change enter through the crown of your head away, and whirls into a tornado that easily destroys anything standing between you and your mission, including the voices, images and words of others

EARTH: Now take a deep breath and ground yourself, rooted deeply into mother earth. Grasp your power stone or rock, and feel the healing and soothing energies of earth to seep through your being as deeply healing balm for both body and soul.

And now feel the space that’s been opened within you, that infinite creative space, the womb of potential. Feel your capacity. Feel your eternal power. You are good to go.

You’ve intentionally and deliberately cut the energetic cords with anything or anyone you wish to release from your life. Anything that’s been deliberately draining you of your life force, or of your joy of living. Then it’s important to immediately cleanse, after first drinking a big glass of water.

RECLAIM your own energy

‘When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. When I let go of what I have, I receive what I need.’

— Tao Te Ching

As you begin your journey, remember your presence, your sweetness, your tender appreciation for people and all of life are gifts to you and to others. Your intuition and your refined sensitivities are healing. I want you to appreciate yourself, your openness, and ability to feel.

Zen Enso Circle · Tree Galaxy

Realise how special and perfect you are.

When you really see yourself, you can connect with the wholeness and depth within.

Then you can enjoy your empathy — that’s the point.

Not everyone will understand you, but that’s okay. Search for kindred spirits who will, and you will understand them too It’s a beautiful feeling of connection.

THOUGHT is the Mother of all Creation

"Sometimes the hardest part isn’t letting go but rather learning to start over."

Nicole Sobon

So now light a white candle to the end of the very difficult cycle you’ve come through.

The breakthrough insights that came in these times revealed you weren’t who you thought you were. But something more.

As you’re guided onto the path of healing, a bright portal has opened. These healings take place beyond time and beyond space.

Take note, because you’re now entering a new cycle at a higher vibrational level. You’ll lift on the solar breeze of a lighter and freer energy. If you choose to share your healing gifts, you’ll free not only yourself but also others.

Freedom from the past, from trauma, and from anything that might drain your life energy.

Freedom from anything, from this and other lifetimes, that has distracted and taken your attention from your own life destiny with Divine Love.

GREEN ENERGY after vampire attacks

"Letting go means to come to the realisation that some people are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny."

Steve Maraboli

If you’ve been feeling drained and depleted for quite some time, nothing goes down better for energy restoration than real green juice.

I also highly recommend that each time you have this life-restoring and replenishing drink —

say — 3 times a day — that you also take 6 Hawaiian Pacifica green Spirulina tablets.

If you’re an empath who’s been under attack by energy vampires or narcissists, chances are you’re feeling very debilitated, and deeply exhausted.

You may be experiencing severe fatigue, as though the victim of a very real vampire attack.

So — treat yourself as though you have been (a vampire’s snack)— and do all you can to build up and strengthen your blood and energy once more. And please don’t let that vampire in your house again, or anywhere near you.

Adrenals burnt-out by stress, and a heart impacted by anxiety from unrelenting abuse all need to be healed and fully ultra- nourished.

It will take time but you WILL heal.


"I demolish my bridges behind me… then there is no choice but to move forward."

— Fridtjof Nansen

Photo · Balancing Dad

The main way energy is extracted from another person is to upset the person…. A person is thrown out of balance, and this is what causes the person to give up some life energy, says Dr L Wilson.

Do we need defence against this? Yes, yes, yes we do, I can’t say this enough… and how we do this is many and varied, and I’ll go into this more over time.

Shielding can help in this, as can living your life fully.


"Even on my weakest days I get a little bit stronger"

Sara Evans

Shielding is a basic skill I recommend to prevent empathic ability overload.

It’s a quick way to protect yourself.

Visualising a protective shield has a lot more innate protective power than many might believe.

Many empaths rely on shielding to block out toxic energy while allowing the free flow of positivity.

I suggest you regularly employ this skill.

PROTECTIVE SHIELDING: Visualisation for empaths

"Empaths did not come into this world to be victims, we came to be warriors. Be brave. Stay strong. We need all hands on deck."

Anthon St. Maarten

In a relaxed state, visualise a beautiful shield of white, gold or pink light completely surrounding your body and extending a few inches beyond it.

This shield protects you from anything negative, stressful, toxic, or intrusive.

Within the protection of this shield, feel yourself centred, happy, and energised.

This shield blocks out negativity.

But at the same time, you can still feel what’s positive and loving.

Get used to the sensation of the shield protecting your body. It’s an invaluable skill to have as an empathic person. You can visualise the shield whenever you suspect you’re absorbing someone else’s energy.


"It was when I stopped searching for home within others and lifted the foundations of home within myself I found there were no roots more intimate than those between a mind and body that have decided to be whole."

Rupi Kaur

Lying on the ground — whether earth, grass, rocks or sand — is a truly wonderful way of coming back to yourself. To ground and earth yourself. Walking barefoot in nature and letting our feet sink into the grass, or the dirt or sand really brings us that deep connection.

You might remember having lain on the grassy ground gazing at the clouds, and daydreaming as a child.

You can still do this as an adult. Don't let anything stop you!

The incredible healing medicine of our Mother Earth brings such peace in through our feet and our entire body when we allow ourself to connect in this way.

This is even more tangible for empaths — any sensitive and intuitive person will feel the grounding energies flowing through them.

And when walking barefoot, keep in mind that our feet are brilliant for grounding and healing any stress. The natural healing effect of walking on the earth activates direct and deep connection with the density of reflexology and acupuncture points located on the soles of our feet.

Thus transmitting the earth’s healing through our feet to our entire being.

SMUDGING YOUR SPACE: De-spelling dark energy

"May the sage cleanse my hands, my feet, my heart, my throat, my eyes, and my soul. Thus, enabling me to see, feel, touch, and hear about the beauty of this world. May this space be cleansed by the smoke of sage in a way that the smoke carries my prayers to the highest of heaven to be accepted. Amen!"

- Smudging Prayer

White Sage is used to dispel negative energy.

Cedar or sacred Palo Santo are used for an overall blessing or to cleanse where there’s been illness.

Sweetgrass draws in positive energy.

So just take a bundle of the sage or sweet grass, and if it’s not already bound together with thin string, you can do this yourself.

Place it on a traditional surface such as abalone shell (representing water), or in a charcoal or incense burner if it’s loose leaves, and light it ’til it begins to burn and emit smoke. Sometimes we have to blow on it a few times to get it smoking. Once it’s smoking away nicely, using your hand or feather/s, wave the smoke towards your body, moving it from above your crown of head down to the tips of your toes.

I always start these smudging sessions with a prayer to the Four Directions (North, South, East & West), Mother Earth, and the Source of our own life, the Sun.

After smudging your body, you can then move through your room, even your entire house, smudging into the four corners of the rooms, clearing any stagnant or dark energies, and blessing the space with vibrant new energy.

This is one of the greatest ways I know to dispel and repel the dark energy of negative entities, or our own negativity.

SALT BATHS: Washing away dark energies & entities

"Create boundaries. Honor your limits. Say no. Take a break. Let go. Stay grounded. Nurture your body. Love your vulnerability. And if all else fails, breathe deeply.”

Aletheia Luna

When we’re under spiritual attack, which most people are at some point, salt water baths are a brilliant method for cleansing negative entities from our bodies and energy field.

The impact of spiritual or psychic attack can significantly weaken and debilitate you, so if you’ve been experiencing any of the following symptoms, a salt water bath is highly recommended:

Sacred Salt from the Dead Sea

- Muddled thinking or inability to think straight

- Overthinking and racing mind

- Fatigue and lethargy

- Any extreme emotions such as anger

- Stress, anxiety, depression

- Any physical illness

So set up your bathroom with beautiful aromatic incense, soft candle light, and rose petals floating in your bath. We want you to feel peaceful as you soak, and cleanse and nullify the negative energy from your aura. Once the bath has been filled to the level you can sink into most comfortably and the most desirable warmth, pour in two cups of the salts you intend using — these can be scented bath salts, Epson salts or any other sacred salts.

Try Shaheen Miro’s prayer to fill the space with radiant protective energy:

"Let the vibrant light of the divine bless this water. Fill it with energy to heal and cleanse my spiritual bodies. This water will wash away the weights and stresses of the day. I will emerge lighter, brighter and refreshed. The essence of the angels infuses this water to uplift my spirit. Amen."

As you lay in the water, visualise the cleansing seeping throughout your entire being and sing, chant, relax. Any dull energy is dissipating and you emerge radiant, refreshed and relaxed. Take your time, and let any jangled energies dissolve away.

When you step out, having bathed in liquid light, then feel your self being wrapped in warm white healing angelic light.

LIVING YOUR LIFE and fulfilling your destiny

"You’ll find it’s necessary to let things go; simply for the reason that they are heavy. So let them go, let go of them. I tie no weights to my ankles."

C. JoyBell C.

Breath of Life Mandala

The concept of fully living our life and fulfilling our destiny, as far as possible, cannot actually be overstated as the most powerful way of maintaining core stability in our life.

Yes, there are forces in this world and from other places, which seek to not only destabilise us, but also block our way to our destiny, and even destroy us.

Even seeking to steal our life destiny and make it their own.

These are the dark-souled vampires and demonic entities from the lower realms who came here empty and hungry, and so seek to fill themselves with us and our own vibrant and radiant life energies.

Strong daily focus on our mission and purpose breeds the sense of yogic mind control and calm. We cannot fully ignore the vampires and life thieves but we can live our life. Being the calm in the storm, as far as possible.

What we need most of all is to live the great spiritual concept of:

EQUANIMITY: A calm awareness of the truth

"You can only lose what you cling to."


In Buddhism, equanimity (upekkhā, upekṣhā) is considered one of the Four Sublime Attitudes.

It’s a perfect, unshakeable balance of mind, rooted in insight (Vipassana).

A mind filled with equanimity is not a mind filled with thoughts or emotion, it’s the conscious awareness of the transient nature of reality.

And for those who might believe that equanimity is a kind of cool and aloof indifference, in fact equanimity produces a state of ‘radiance and warmth of being’.

The Buddha described a mind filled with equanimity as ‘abundant, exalted, immeasurable, without hostility and without ill-will.’

Meditation is a brilliant practice to cultivate the steady consciousness of equanimity.

So now you’ve a toolbox filled with many ways to cut the suffocating ties that bind, and cleanse any dark energies hanging ‘round you trying to steal your light and life force.

Release your radiant and abundantly creative self to shine unfettered once more!

And rock on sweet brothers and sisters — dearest family — rock on!

Photo · Timothy Dykes · Unsplash


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