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The Empath's Guide To Surviving Social Media

Updated: Nov 19, 2020

“All who use language should be concerned whether statements and facts agree, whether language is, in Orwell’s words, ‘largely the defence of the indefensible’ and whether language ‘is designed to make lies sound truthful and murder respectable, and to give an appearance of solidity to pure wind’.”

— William Lutz (professor of English at Rutgers University, author of Double-Speak: The Use of Language to Deceive You; 3rd Chairman of DoubleSpeak Committee)

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There’s no doubt about it - social media can be absolute ‘energy overwhelm’ for the Empath.

Social Media is so many things. It’s a living breathing organism, animated by the minds, lives thoughts and desires of all the heaving humanity around us.

It’s also a SIMulated world, a world of unreality, where people are one thing but can present themselves as another. Shown at their very best using glowing professional photo-shoot images, or at their worst, to fulfil the shifting public taste from streamlined photo-shop images to authenticity in all its sweaty, wrinkled grey-haired glory.

It’s a beast without a conscience. It’s mega-mammon with no administrator. It’s a relentless hunger as vast as a cosmic black hole.

It carries the capacity for types of torture and trauma that cannot yet be named.

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It’s a fascinating blank page on which we write our dreams, grow our companies, and showcase our brilliant stories.

And a wondrous portal to the global community. It’s the opportunity for total lies or total truth. It’s the hunting ground for inspiration. It’s an artist’s greatest dream and worst nightmare.

On social media we can shine or we can hide, we can laugh loudly and silently weep. We find old friends we’d never have found again if not for this apparent boon to humankind. It’s proven itself as a gift during natural disasters, outlining events as they unfold and sounding alarms as needed.

It’s a doorway to the hell of wars and the seeming unreality of peace.

It’s a platform for your message. It’s a business owner’s hope. It’s so many of these things and more.

But there are also many very, very deep-seated and terrifying issues and problems created by social media that incredible prophets such as George Orwell foresaw and foretold.

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Doublespeak is language that deliberately obscures, disguises, distorts, or reverses the meaning of words.

Doublespeak may take the form of euphemisms (e.g. ‘downsizing’ for layoffs, ‘servicing the target’ for bombing), in which case it’s primarily meant to make the truth sound more palatable.

It may also refer to intentional ambiguity in language or to actual inversions of meaning. In such cases, doublespeak disguises the nature of the truth. Doublespeak is most closely associated with political language. (Wiki)

‘What is really important in the world of doublespeak is the ability to lie, whether knowingly or unconsciously, and to get away with it; and the ability to use lies and choose and shape facts selectively, blocking out those that don’t fit an agenda or program.’

— Edward S Hermann (political economist and media analyst)

‘In our time, political speech and writing are largely the defense of the indefensible … Thus, political language has to consist largely of euphemism, question-begging and sheer cloudy vagueness … the great enemy of clear language is insincerity. Where there is a gap between one’s real and one’s declared aims, one turns as it were instinctively to long words and exhausted idioms …’

George Orwell

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‘This experiment suggests certain analogies between the environments created for rats by the scientists and the environments created for us humans by language and the various mass media of communication. Like the saccharine environment, an environment created or infiltrated by doublespeak provides the appearance of nourishment and the promise of survival, but the appearance is illusionary and the promise false.’

Terrence P. Moran, US National Council of Teachers of English [comparing the use of doublespeak in the mass media to laboratory experiments conducted on rats, where a batch of rats were deprived of food, before one half was fed sugar and water and the other half a saccharin solution.]

So why do I bring this up, this awful spectre of DoubleSpeak? I think you know. If you’re an Empath — you know all too well.

The social media environment is a cesspool of DoubleSpeak. Our times are as riddled with DoubleSpeak as Swiss cheese is with holes.

We all do it.

Those of us who are activists, radical and freethinkers often do it to protect ourself and our loved ones. Some do it to send an untraceable call to action.

And some do it to simply fuck with the minds of others. To put it bluntly.

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Indian Code-Talking

The term “Code talkers” refers to a group of people in the 20th century who utilized little-known languages as a means of secret communication during wartime.

‘The term is now usually associated with United States service members during the world wars who used their knowledge of Native American languages as a basis to transmit coded messages.

In particular, there were approximately 400–500 Native Americans in the United States Marine Corps whose primary job was the transmission of secret tactical messages.

Code talkers transmitted these messages over military telephone or radio communications nets using formal or informally developed codes built upon their native languages. Their service improved the speed of encryption of communications at both ends in front line operations during World War II.

The name code talkers is strongly associated with bilingual Navajo speakers specially recruited during World War II by the Marines to serve in their standard communications units in the Pacific Theater. Code talking, however, was pioneered by the Cherokee and Choctaw peoples during World War I.’ (Wiki)

Bear with me, I bring all these things to you for a reason.

If you’re in the know, you know already, you won’t need explanations. If you’re new to all this, watch this space and learn.

It’s a jigsaw puzzle of many pieces that come together to make a frighteningly un-cohesive bigger picture of the online predators and tactics used.

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Have you heard of Signifyin’? Many haven’t, and yet you’re exposed to it on a daily basis in many subtle ways. It’s a fascinating Afro-American term, and signifies a code born in the era of slavery.

‘Signifyin’ (sometimes written “signifyin(g)”) (vernacular), is a wordplay. It’s a practice in Afro-American culture involving a verbal strategy of indirection that exploits the gap between the denotative and figurative meanings of words.

A simple example would be insulting someone to show affection.

Other names for signifyin’ include: “Dropping lugs, joaning, sounding, capping, snapping, dissing, busting, bagging, janking, ranking, toasting, woofing, putting on, or cracking.”

‘Signifyin’ directs attention to the connotative, context-bound significance of words, which is accessible only to those who share the cultural values of a given speech community.

The expression comes from stories about the Signifying Monkey, a trickster figure said to have originated during slavery in the United States.(wiki)

In most of these narratives, the Monkey manages to dupe the powerful Lion by signifying.’

Do I need elaborate further on the online use of 'Signifyin?’

A great tool in times of slavery and severe danger, but also a nightmare in the hands of despots, fascists and fools, no matter the cultural background or heritage.

All the codes I am writing of have deviated from the original motive, and are being used by others with extremely different motives.

Any Empath worth their salt can smell Signifyin’ in the wrong hands at a hundred paces. And any Empath reading these words can well read between these lines.

I’m counting on that.

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Online Black Magic

There’s an absolutely undeniable correlation between the magical symbols of the magician and the virtual magical codes created by contemporary computer wizards.

We need to recognize the incredible power held within the world of data coding that mimics and effectively encapsulates the natural magic of the real and original humans.

The occulted knowledge held within symbols and codes has again, undeniably been carried over into the world of the computer wizard. Both the computer wizard and the magician of the dark arts seek to create a servant, a golem — a manufactured creature to do their bidding.

The questions I’m beginning to ask here are these: can a robotic intelligence utter — the word? Can the breath of life be inhaled by a machine and exhaled as the language of God?

Are you aware of the immensity of the usage of computer technology to attempt to program and assimilate you? Yes, it IS like the Borg. The collective vision may not be as enlightened as we think.

The true vision is much higher and comes from an utterly different perspective. I’m excited to explore these questions with you and really look into the world of technology and its metallic grip on humanity’s mind, heart, body and soul.

Just what kind of a conduit is it really? What are the subliminal messages coming through, are there covert messages within the overt? How many technical wizards are actually black magicians?

And just what is their real agenda?

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Online Gangstalking

GangStalking is simply a form of community mobbing and organised stalking combined.

Just as you have workplace mobbing, and online mobbing, which are both fully recognized as legitimate, this is the community form.

GangStalking is organized harassment at it’s best. It the targeting of an individual for revenge, jealousy, sport, or to keep them quite, etc.

It’s organised, widespread, and growing. Some describe this form of harassment as, “A psychological attack that can completely destroy a persons life, while leaving little or no evidence to incriminate the perpetrators.” Who gets targeted? The people getting targeted seem to be (single) woman, minorities, outspoken individuals, whistle-blowers, dissidents, people who have gone against large corporations, etc. Goals of this hate campaign The goal is to sensitize the target to a stimuli, isolate the target, make them destitute. The secondary goals seem to be to make the target homeless, jobless, give them a breakdown, and the primary goals seems to be to drive the target to suicide. Who GangStalks? The surprising thing is that GangStalkers can be found in every level of society. There’s no real age barrier, gender barrier, and a variety of races do participate. In almost every occupation in society you can find people who are going along with this.

Gang stalking for many is seen as a game, a sport to be played with another individuals life. Many do not understand or care that the end consequence of this game is to destroy a person. Why do they GangStalk? “It’s conceivable that the participants in the harassment don’t even know why the person has been targeted, nor would most of these individuals have any personal stake in harassing the victim.

Gang stalking is an both an addictive behaviour as well as a form of entertainment for the stalkers. There is a vicious kind of pleasure that they derive from bullying their victim. Clearly they like the feeling of being “in control”.

excerpts from Urban Dictionary interspersed with my own thoughts and experiential understanding

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Like our society’s current obsession with “reality TV”, this activity is inevitably gaining popularity as the ultimate experience of “reality” entertainment.

To the perpetrators, their targets are merely their prey, in a game that never ends.

But make no mistake, whatever the reasoning behind it, this is a vicious and calculated hate crime.

Others are blackmailed or forced into talking part in this activity. Others go along with it because they want to fit in and feel part of something that is large and powerful.

Some are part of community groups who believe they’re targeting an undesirable.

Some are part of the informant groups within cities. But basically — they’re urban terrorists.

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Psychopaths, Sociopaths & Online Bullies

There’s been no better invention in the world of the sociopath than social networking, who’ll use it very effectively to:

· Manipulate

· Control

· Spy and Stalk


· Create a false persona

Remember — the Sociopath creates a mask of illusion and is the master magician. So then why assume everything the sociopath puts on social networking is true?

They’re master game players.

Sociopaths and psychopaths, terrorists, vampires and trolls are all using social networking as a tool. But they often put on a good face — their very best face — as a mask to fool you.

Learn to see through the mask to the black heart and very bad intentions behind it.

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Being An Empath

So, in this online world of Signifyin’, Sociopaths, DoubleSpeak, Codetalkers, lies, black magic and GangStalking — how does the sensitive Empath survive, sanity intact?

If you’re an Empath, you’re extremely highly sensitive. Some of us admit to being telepathic. And well, we are. As any Empath well knows, the gift is multi-faceted and can also hold what seems at times like a curse.

This curse is in the sense that we well know when someone is lying to us. We know it without a doubt.

And yet, we feel we cannot just keep turning to people and accuse them of being liars. That’s simply too heavy-handed and feels abusive to the sensitive Empath.

But let’s examine the impact of a lie on the psyche of one who knows they’re being lied to. It feels like a knife to the heart.

A stomach punch. Like acid thrown in our face. Like a diseased intention to blind us to the truth. It feels as though the fabric of our world has been ripped asunder and toxic chemicals are pouring forth.

As though the real meaning of love has actually morphed into hate.

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Assault & Battery By Social Media

In my Spiritual Counselling work, I’m often asked by my clients how to best deal with their partner’s use of social media.

They tell heart-wrenching stories of how it feels to them to find their beloved flirting or communicating with someone on Facebook or Twitter.

And they ask how to delineate between online and offline behaviour — where many seem to take liberties they’d never have dared to in the past, before the social media monster was invented.

It’s an out of control monster, thats for sure, and so we need to treat it as such.

Originally I ruefully acknowledged that this was a very new area for humanity — where the social rules and moral compass for social media seem to have been reset. Or actually thrown away by immoral and corrupt ‘authorities’.

But now I’ve developed some guidelines for my clients to bring into their personal relationships, within this minefield of social media’s very toxic impact.

The use and abuse of this medium has become so coded and subtle that it’s very hard to pin down another on the way they’re communicating. The global use of code language or ‘coding’ online has become such a huge phenomenon that no court could adequately address it, reveal it, or fully pin it down now.

The codes can be, and are, changed at any time and those who don’t wish to participate in the hellish games are virtually shunned or left as an outsider within their own communities.

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How To Cope:

As a sensitive, you have an extremely heightened nervous system and awareness to the subtle and powerful energies constantly swirling around you.

You’re also very affected by light, sound and also to the thoughts of others — little do they know. And the predatory sector of humanity is VERY aware of your sensitivity — because this is their hunting ground.

The social media virtual environment can be extremely overwhelming to the psychic and intuitive, as every post, every ‘like’, every image someone places online gives us a direct and often very unpleasant window into soul of another.

Food for a Psi-Vampire is gleaned from your emotional reaction to their attacks. Anything they can do to knock you off-balance and left hurting is a meal on the table for them, a feast. And fulfils their blood-lust on a psychic level.

That’s basically what it is. This is the true nature of the conscienceless animal of Artificial Intelligence we’re now dealing with.

Know, learn and understand. Knowledge is our weapon. Understanding is our key. Reflecting back to others what they’ve done unto us is our sword and our weapon in a world with very little integrity left to its name. It’s a battlefield, there is no doubt.

So gird your loins brothers and sisters — and learn how to fight back.

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You need strategies to deal with the online psychopaths and sociopaths — they think differently and come from the crazed mindset of the Beast. The very first things you need to learn how to do on a very regular basis (and also at need) are the following:

— Turn off and tune out

Unplugging from the mainframe is one of the greatest gifts you can ever give yourself, my dear friend. And one of the hardest things to do. It has a vice-like grip on most of our minds so regularly unplugging is a challenge we must bring into our personal health regime. Nature is one of the truest forms of free energy, so go there and rest, recover and rejuvenate.

— Cleanse and clear out

Clear the energies that are coming at you from every direction. These energies tend to build up and get dense, so it’s important to release them to the earth for recycling or return to sender. It’s a wild world and there are many negative energies floating around us. Don’t be alarmed, just open the windows, let the light in, light some white candles, and do any clearing ritual you know. This can include sprinkling salt, use of Himalayan salt lamps, smudging with White Sage or Palo Santo; Feng Shui the entire place, ring Tao bells and sharply clap the darkness out of corners, and so on.

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— Music is magic

Mantras are brilliant and powerful — find the spiritual path you feel deeply aligned with, and the spirit guides associated with that path will assist you when you call. Play music that rocks your world, and watch movies to cut off and block any ‘white noise’ or static coming at you from online interference and attempts at any mind control.

— Trust what you know and feel

You’re not an Empath for no reason. You’re an ancient and wise soul from other worlds, you’ve been around the universe a few times. You know demon when you see it.

— Get real & get out

Get out of any slimy online holes you may have accidentally fallen into where worms and predators dwell. You know where these are. You know WHO they are. So, get yourself out of there asap, and delete and block where possible. You won’t miss them. Promise.

— Check in and check out

Feel into what’s going on. Realize immediately when the energy of another is enmeshing and attempting to merge with your own. Disconnect. Cut those ties, which are really the tentacles of a psi-vampire or inter-dimensional astral predatory entity. Often lodged with in a human body. And then check out of any environment that saps and drains you.

— Ground and connect

If you’re feeling spaced out and disconnected, the very best thing you can do for yourself is to go outside, let your bare feet touch the earth, and the sun and wind caress your skin. Not only will this lift your heart and shift the space, it will feed your soul in ways you cannot even imagine. Remember this — because you already know it.

— Listen to your Soul

You don’t need a guru. Please hear me on this. I can’t say this enough. Most of them are predators. Very skilled and charming predators. If by chance you find a teacher who really has your best interests at heart — you’ve found gold. But keep checking — even the best of them are open to corruption, so never let your vigilance slip or your guard down. This is incredibly important. For your own survival.

— Pray to God

God listens. And sees it all. Know that at the end of the day your God will have the final say. Rest in the knowing that you don’t have to take vengeance against those who have harmed you, because it will be taken care of, in God’s own good time.

— Find your Inner Warrior

Learn how to fight back. It doesn't just go away when we ignore it, and being a doormat or vampire’s snack wasn't what we signed up for when we came here. Read The Art of War and The Art of Peace and anything else you can get your hands on. I fully recommend fighting back, because this stuff can be deadly dangerous and we have the absolute right to live our own life. Find your ethical balance in it all and do what you need to do.

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Don’t Play The Game

So, you’re now aware of the magicians, witches (black ones), sorcerers, psychopaths and sociopaths, GangStalkers, bullies and creeps that inhabit the internet (if you weren’t already).

Some of these may be closer to home than you want to know. Sadly, the Empath realizes with harsh experience that not all who smile at you are your friend. Not all those you trust and tell your secrets can be trusted. Enemies come in all guises and masks.

You gather enemies simply by virtue of being your sweet self.

Never underestimate the jealous spirit of another. Those who feel threatened by you in some way WILL resort to any means to bring you down. Fighting it head-on doesn’t always work. And can just wear you down.

A fight is what they love. It’s fuel to their fire. But we cannot give up and we must learn to fight in subtle ways. In both overt and covert ways. Reflecting back what they give. And actually the best revenge is success. Be great to yourself. Treat yourself like gold. Do something, anything else rather than give them your attention.

Be you as beautifully as you are. If no one celebrates you online — celebrate yourself.

You don’t need the approval of online folks to legitimize your existence, who you are and what you have to say. Chances are that there are some really good folks NOT online who really appreciate what you have to bring to the world.

You have a right to be here, just as the sun, moon and stars — YOU are a beloved child of God.

Who wants you to be happy. Because that’s your birthright. Don’t let anyone take that from you. It’s not theirs to take.

Your destiny is yours and yours only.

Don’t play the game. You’re here to dismantle the game — never forget this. Nothing is ever as it seems with the online sociopath, so remember this and establish NO Contact. Because you’re so very worth it!

So — here it is — my Social Media Survival Guide for EMPATHS! Let me know your thoughts. I hope it helps!

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Copyright 2019/2020 © Julie Von Nonveiller Cairnes. All rights reserved.

I first published this in MEDIUM on Mar 12, 2019

None of my messages are about other people (ie 'celebrities' and so on) - no matter what they might think - these come from me, to you my friend, for your soul upliftment

Love. You.

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